Let’s try using an exercise to help identify the main reason for one’s self-sabotage, we’ll call it your “Wall”. The wall represents whatever story you are telling your brain that is holding you back from living the life you daydream about. The life you picture at some of your lowest points in life, the vision that follows “If only _______ I would be so Happy, etc.
In order for us to tackle this wall, we need to identify who is standing in the way.
IT’S YOU and it has been this entire time. Yes, we all go through obstacles that is life, But it’s how you interpret those obstacles that matter. The excuses we give ourselves send messages to the brain that hard work isn’t stimulating or exciting enough so being on Social Media is the better alternative. Or that debt you need to pay off can wait, I will do it soon. But soon never comes
Your brains current programing does not want to see you hurt or unconformable in any way, in fact it will deliberately do its best to keep you in your comfort zone even if your surroundings or current state is detrimental. Your body starts to crave familiar surroundings, part of the reason why change can be so difficult for some. It’s like you are holding your breath and you will breath at the right moment. What is that moment never come’s!? This information resonated with me once I correlated it to growing up my Dad never wanted to be disturbed when watching his Sunday Football “Program”.
We all operate on a certain frequency differing a bit depending on the individual. We also have a level of concern for our wellbeing and will not put our physical selves in harm’s way willfully that is automatic for the brain to do. The same thing goes for the mental aspect as well, which helps further place you in either an unwanted cycle, a stagnant stage, or both.
A great starting point to overcoming stagnation is to start chipping away at smaller Tasks. Start with a 5-minute task and gradually make your way up to 30 minutes until you get the job done. For the bigger task use the same methods and you will begin to realize those big scary tasks you consistently put off day after day are not that hard never that big and once finished you are another step closer to the goal and can breathe a little lighter than before. Thankfully your brain will eventually adapt to the change although it may be challenging at the beginning stick with the chipping method and you will see it’s easier to breathe and remain present once the to-do list is complete.
