Let’s try using an exercise to help identify the main reason for one’s self sabotage, we’ll call it your “Wall”. The wall represents whatever is holding you back from living the life you daydream about. The life you picture at some of your lowest points in life, the vision that follows “If only _______ I would be so Happy etc.
In order for us to tackle this wall we need to identify who is standing in the way.
ITS YOU and it has been this entire time. The excuses we give ourselves send’s messages to the brain that hard work isn’t stimulating or exciting enough so being on Social Media is the better alternative. Or that Debt you need to pay off can wait, I will do it soon. But soon never comes
The inner you (the brain) does not want to see you hurt or unconformable in any way, in fact it will deliberately do its best to keep you in your comfort zone even if your surroundings or current state is detrimental. Your body starts to crave familiar surroundings, part of the reason why change can be so difficult for some. It’s like you are holding your breath and you will breath at the right moment. What is that moment never come’s!?
We all operate on a certain frequency differing a bit depending on the individual. We also have a level of concern for our wellbeing and will not put our physical selves in harm’s way willfully that is automatic for the brain to do. Same thing goes for the mental aspect as well, which helps further place you in either an unwanted cycle, stagnant stage or both.
A great starting point to overcome stagnation is to start chipping away smaller Task start with 5-minute task and gradually make your way of to 30 minutes until you get the job done. For the bigger task use the same methods and you will begin to realize those big scary tasks you consistently put off day after day are not that hard never that big and once finished you another step closer to the goal and can breathe a little lighter than before. Thankfully your brain will eventually adapt to the change although it may be challenging at the beginning stick with the chipping method and you will see it’s easier to breath once the to-do list is complete.